Infertility Counseling in Wisconsin & Illinois Infertility Myths

Infertility Myth 1: You need to be positive to conceive.

Your ability to conceive is not determined by your mindset.

Hopeful, scared, angry and sad are normal emotional responses to infertility. They are not failures. They are not blockages. And they are not the reason your body is struggling.

The pressure to “just think positive” often adds shame on top of pain. It can silence real emotions and make people feel responsible for something that is already out of their control.

You don’t need to be endlessly hopeful.

You don’t need to be grateful every day.

You don’t need to perform optimism to deserve care or support.

What does help?

Having your feelings validated

Empathy, not advice

Letting go of self blame

Support to feel less alone

You are not broken because this is hard.

And you are not doing infertility “wrong” because you’re struggling.

Infertility Myth 2: You have to do everything perfectly to conceive.

Let’s get real for a minute. If you are doing IVF timing and sticking to a schedule can have an impact on your success. But nutrition, movement, supplements, mindset? What often gets missed is how quickly this turns into pressure. And pressure keeps the nervous system on high alert. Perfectionism may feel productive, but it often adds stress rather than safety.

You are not doing anything wrong if you feel exhausted by trying to do everything “right.” Fertility support can include rest, flexibility, and self-compassion too.

You do not have to be perfect to deserve care. If this resonates, you're not alone and support exists.

Infertility Myth 3: No one will understand what you are going through.

Going through infertility can feel so lonely. It can feel like no one can truly understand. Maybe you have tried opening up. Maybe your feelings have been dismissed. Maybe you haven't been able to open up to others for support.

Therapy can help you to feel heard, supported and to help you connect to outside supports. To find out more about how therapy can help you to feel less lonely when going through infertility set up a free consultation at www.kullcounselingmadison.com/contact